Tina Fey, Malala, Hayley Wickenheiser, Emma Watson, Beyonce, Mindy Kaling…
These women all have something in common. They are fearless. They make moves, dare to go for it, and never play the victim. They are some of the trailblazers for gender equality. They are women celebrated in this current feminist movement…
But, looking at all of these powerful women, they did not follow the same path. They have all channeled their own version of Fearless.
Some of us are bossy. Some of us are tender. Some of us are athletic. Some of us are creative. Some of us are all of the above. It’s about finding your own way of being “Fearless”.
Here’s 5 ways to be Fearless in your own way:
Follow a life you enjoy living
Here’s my go-to advice: write down your core values. These core values are not interests like dancing, cooking, hiking, the gym, etc.
Your core values are your fundamental beliefs. For me, I know that I value adventure, humour, family, honesty, and creativity. By clarifying what you truly value, you will create an unwavering and unchanging guide for you towards the life that is right for you.
Raise yourself up
Quick exercise (physically or mentally): pretend you’ve been holding a plank position. It’s been over one minute, your face is definitely beat-red, the sweat is forming on your forehead, hands are clammy, and your breath sounds like you’re suffering. Now think of your best friend going through this pain, what would you say to her? “K you’re the best one here”,“Damn you’re strong”, “Girl, you got thissss!’…
Now say that to yourself. Have you ever really said those kinds of things to yourself? We tend to be our own worst enemy; harshly criticizing ourselves (“so weak”, “going to collapse”) while we think of our best friend as the total package, she’s strong and the greatest person in her own way. So why not be your own best friend? Because you are also strong and the total package in your own way. You deserve to be raised up, too.
Don’t Waste Time Wishing for Things That Won’t Change
Wishing that a situation went differently, wishing you were Prince Harry’s secret lover, wishing you were a Kardashian, or wishing for an unhealthy relationship to change…
Fearless Women take pride in themselves, and know when to turn around and go their own way. Wishing for something that cannot change is just a waste of your valuable time.
Go For It
Whatever “it” is — pursuing a degree, quitting an unhealthy job, getting a guy, checking off the bucket-list experience, or moving to another country, just go for it.
Think it through, make a plan and bring your own idea of happiness into your path. And when you become fearless about the goal, it happens a whole lot faster.
Make Your Life the #1 Priority
Never put your life on hold to accommodate someone else’s idea of who you should be. Instead, get into the driver’s seat and go fearlessly in the direction of your dreams.