As 2018 comes to an end, it is a perfect time to ditch the heavy baggage and bad habits that won’t serve you come the New Year. 2019 is about celebrating a fresh start and cultivating new habits that push you to grow into a better version of yourselves. While there are hundreds of things you should leave behind in 2018 (such as cheap vodka or credit card debt), dig deeper to understand why you are still holding on these bad habits. In order to set smarter goals and better intentions that will stick for the next 365 days, you have to take a harsh reality check at your current lifestyle to see what served you well and what didn’t.
Acceptance is the first step. Willingness and action are the the second and third step. Remember: your desire to change has to be stronger than your desire to stay the same.
New Year, New You. Don’t let 2019 be the prolonged sequel to 2018. Here are 8 things you should leave behind in 2018.
Saying Yes When You Should Be Saying No
Time. Energy. Effort. Girl, they’re all precious so you gotta be selfish with them. Don’t be afraid to say no to people and things that won’t fill you up the right way. You are ultimately your most important priority so there is no need to feel guilty for saying no. Say yes to obligations that will make you happier in life and will advance you to wherever it is that you want to be. Be the leading lady in your own life, say no to anything and everything else that will be in your way.
For 2019: Be intentional with your choices. Think before saying yes because your happiness comes first.
Setting Unrealistic Expectations
The more you set expectations, the more you will be let down if they don’t come true. Life can throw you a curveball at any time, any where, and so can people. While it’s important to have goals in life, it’s better to plan smarter. Rather than coming up with a specific expectation or outcome, go into a situation with an open mind. If you are doing something for someone, don’t expect anything in return. If something you planned didn’t go the way you expected, take a deep breath and readjust your thinking. Everything happen for a reason – let that guide you.
For 2019: Let it go, let it go. Do the best you can and let the universe do the rest. Give and love selflessly to those around you.
Comparing Yourself To Everyone Else
Girl, slay in your own lane. No two paths are ever the same, which means your goals and milestones will be very different than someone else’s. Social media tends to portray highlight reels and not behind-the-scene hard work. Remember that! So, tend to your own grass and don’t worry about your neighbour’s. After all, did they hire you to water their lawn in the first place?
For 2019: Celebrate your little victories whenever you can. It’s important to be aware of your own progress so that you can see how far you have come!
Friends That Don’t Support Or Keep In Touch
Got no time for you? Well. That’s their loss. Don’t waste anymore of your breath or energy worrying about them. Make room for friends that lift you up, cheer you on, and challenge you to be better than yesterday. Those who want to keep in touch with you will find a way to. Those who are jealous of you will keep finding ways to bring you down. That’s the negative energy you DON’T need for 2019.
For 2019: Categorize the friends that you talk to frequently into one of these three lists: the core friends (whom you can bear your heart + soul to), the fun friends (whom can make you laugh and help relieve stress), and your business friends (whom understand exactly what you are going through in business/work). Keep each circle small. Once you have written down their names, take a moment to soak it in. These are the friends you should be cherishing and spending your energy on.
Trying To Impress Everyone You Meet
Yes, first impressions do matter, but you shouldn’t be fake about it. Rather than worrying about what other may think of you and making small talk, show up as your authentic self and show people who you are. Those who vibe at the same wavelength will hit it off with you!
For 2019: Give yourself a hug and love thyself. Don’t hide parts of yourself because every part of you is worthy of loving. Get to know who you really are in your alone time so that you begin to feel comfortable in your own skin. You are the only person in this world who is YOU. There’s no one else close to that, so own it!
A Scarcity Mindset
Here’s what you need to know: there is enough of everything to go around for everyone. Thrice! Happiness, time, wealth, opportunities. You name it, there is an abundance of it flowing around in the universe right this moment, just like oxygen. You wouldn’t ever worry about not enough having oxygen while you are walking to school or work, right?
Live in the present and soak in all the goodness. Choose to adopt a mindset that is rich in abundance. You will enjoy a happier and more fruitful life if you start to believe that.
For 2019: Cultivate mindfulness first so that you are aware of your thoughts. Write your thoughts down so that they are easier to see, then begin to shift your thinking.
Caring About What Others Think
Not everyone is going to like you. Get over it. If you honestly think that you will get along with the thousands of people you will meet in your lifetime, I am sorry to burst your bubble. It ain’t going to happen.
Truth is, everyone is going to talk. It could be something bad, it could be something good. As long as you are living your life and acting selflessly, don’t feel guilty about what people may or may not say about you. The fear of what others think of you can follow you to adulthood, or even your deathbed, if you don’t put a stop to it. Don’t let it rob your happiness and mental health.
For 2019: Grab a piece of paper and write down the names of people that you care hearing from. Friends, family, mentors, bosses. It shouldn’t be too long a list. Those are the people whose opinions matter to you because they love and care about you. These are the people that want you to flourish and thrive unconditionally. Everyone else – who cares?!
Limiting Beliefs That You Tell Yourself
I’ll be blunt: It’s time to stop making up excuses in your head and believing what that little nagging voice is telling you. Leave behind the doubt, the lack of confidence, and the self-sabotage. Ignore what that voice is telling you. Whatever lies it is saying, it doesn’t know you, at least not deeply and fully. Know that you are capable of anything and everything. You are stronger, smarter, and more capable than you allow yourself to be. Think back to the beginning of this year, what have you accomplished that made you proud? You did that. YOU!
Your life is a series of choices. Say yes to the ones that make you happy and say no to the ones that hold you back.
For 2019: Change the way you talk to yourself so that the way you perceive yourself will improve. Positive affirmations help! Say them loud and proud, sista.
Leave behind everything you didn’t like for 2018, and let 2019 be the absolute best year yet. You ready to #liveyourbestlife? I am rooting for you. Happy New Year, everyone.
Seeing people succeed while doing what they love fires her up like no other. Aside from being the co-founder of DiscoverHER Project, Jess is a meeting planner by day and a wedding planner by night. Jess is passionate about giving girls and women around the world the same tools she used to get to where she is today. She believes in wearing her heart on her sleeve, doing everything out of a place of love, and empowering people around her to do the same. When she isn’t in front of a screen, she’s most often found eating tacos, wandering around a book store, or off exploring the world.