Making it a habit to ask yourself these questions before saying yes has the potential to be life-changing.
Throughout the majority of my twenties, I was a total yes girl. Not always in a people-pleasing way, but I frequently said yes without thinking it through. I thought it would be impolite if I were to say no, or that it would be a reflection of my capability or worth. So, it was easier to say yes and to figure out how to make it work afterwards. Needless to say, I was hungry for success and even hungrier to prove to others that I can do it all and have fun at the same time.
You can probably guess how that turned out…
While I was checking off experiences and accomplishments like a weekly grocery list, I was living in a cycle of chaos. Although I did always managed to get things done and see my commitments though, there were times where I overcommitted myself, only to regret my decision mid-way through. Not only was I not performing to the best of my abilities, but I wasn’t getting anywhere close to checking off the actual goals that were on my list. Over the years, I started to feel lost, unproductive, and unfulfilled.
Deep down inside me, I knew I had to change my habits if I truly wanted to improve my lifestyle. I wasn’t being intentional with my choices and it was compromising my well-being. One day, I remember asking myself, “is life supposed to be this hard? How do I simplify things and not feel so drained all the time?”. Who would have thought the simple answer is to just say no to things that don’t serve me.
Whether you are an ambitious student, a young professional hungry for success, or a mom who wants to get everything done, I wanted to share this workbook with you so that your precious time and energy are being spent effectively and in the way that you want. Whenever a big opportunity comes my way, I ask myself these questions in hopes of gaining some clarity before making a commitment. It has truly helped me take a step back in everything that I do and harmonized my life in the way I deserve.
The next time you have the urge (or hesitation) to commit to someone or something, ask yourself these questions before saying yes.
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