“Your Imperfections Are Your Gifts.”
We all heard it. We all had someone say it. How often do we believe it?
The universe works in mysterious ways. I was having one of those mediocre days where I didn’t exactly feel 100% myself. I was tired, unfocused, and feeling partially defeated. I have just been getting over a cold. I didn’t feel confident in what I was doing and was beating myself up for it. I didn’t exactly feel like socializing and putting myself out there. All I wanted to do was to crawl into my bed after work and hermit for the rest of the night. However, I had made a commitment weeks ago to attend an event hosted by a new friend of mine and I wanted to support her. So I put out my big girl panties and strutted along.
Like I mentioned, the universe works in mysterious ways… because what she had to say was exactly what I needed to hear that very night.
Ashley Beaudin is the founder and visionary behind The Imperfect Boss, a movement that is on a mission to make imperfect normal. Her mantra? You guessed it: Your Imperfections Are Your Gifts. Own Them. Through its conception three years ago, Ashley has managed to inspire and encourage thousands of women to be confident and real in who they are and what they do, both online and offline.
This night was no different.
It was her first event from her series #HeartRallies where forty women gathered together to connect in a real and genuine way. Ashley is known for her creativity, vulnerability, and passion. She has a way of captivating the crowd with funny one-liners and … well, delicious donuts. I mean, no one can go wrong with donuts and a candy bar after an emotional night like this! During her talk, Ashley shed some real-deal lessons that every women needs to hear at any stage of their lives to feel confident, worthy, and loved.
Takeaway One: Schedule A Heart Dialogue With Yourself
There are times where we constantly long for someone to ask us how we are and what we are doing. Why is that? Rather than wait for someone to ask us these questions, we need to take the time to ask ourselves these questions. We shouldn’t have to seek for validation from someone else in order to feel confident or real. All of that is already within us! When we wait for someone to ask us questions, we put ourselves in a place of powerlessness. We lose all of our control. Instead, we need to make it a habit to practice compassion with ourselves every day. By doing so, we will know what we need in every moment.
Takeaway Two: Your Imperfections Are Your Gifts. Own Them.
Our imperfections are gifts to this world. They are what connect us to other humans in every relationship that we build. Imperfections create relationships. It may sound a little ironic at first but vulnerability thrives from imperfection. The message we ache to share with the rest of the world is often the one we need the most. It’s where we feel like we don’t measure up the most.
Perfection is overrated. Imperfection is unique. Often enough, we consider our imperfections as flaws and we try to hide them away so that nobody could see them. Instead, we should be embracing our imperfections and showing them some mad love. In order for us to feel confident and worthy, we need to show up fully as who we are no matter when and where. There is no hiding parts of our personalities or parts of our lives! We have to let go of inadequacy and embody the wholeness of our being.
“Make a decision to commit to your gifts and see them all come out into the world”. – Ashley Beaudin
Takeaway Three: Identity Will Ground You In Everything That You Do
To truly know ourselves is to be comfortable AF with every part of ourselves. We need to take the time to figure out who we are and find the truths in us that won’t change. Those truths should not change or shift in any shape or form based on our future followers, likes, or sales. No matter how crappy of a day we are having, those truths will define us because it is those truths that build up our identity.
If strength is a part of our identity, that will stay true no matter how many times we fall.
If authenticity is a part of our identity, that will stay true no matter how many thumbs down we received on our Youtube video.
If photography is a part of our identity, that will stay true no matter how many potential clients say no.
Otherwise, our identity will easily get highjacked when we don’t know who we are. The more we aim to please, the less people will identify with us and the more we will lose ourselves in the process.
Takeaway Four: Your Presence Matters
How many times have we talked ourselves out of doing something because someone else is already doing it? I can think of a million things off the top of my head. With social media being so present nowadays, it’s easy to discourage ourselves because we believe that there are people out there who have it together and can do it better.
We need to shift that mindset and throw that negativity away. All of us bring an unique set of skills, stories, and history that nobody else will have. And it is because of those unique set of gifts that will make us successful in what we aim to do. We can’t sacrifice on our dreams or give up on ourselves that easily. If we do, we aren’t being true to what we want. We need to individually own our unique impact that we bring to the table. Our presence matters.
“Sure, it has been done a million times, but it hasn’t been done by ME”. – Ashley Beaudin
If any of this resonates with you and would like to be inspired in person, I encourage you to sign up for The Imperfect Boss Camp! It’s an one-of-a-kind event that is filled with so much heart, joy, and inspiration. You can check out more information by clicking here.
Big up’s to Ashley for being so real and honest with us! I am already looking forward to your next #heartrallies gathering!
Photography: Photography By Emmah
Venue: Third Floor York
Seeing people succeed while doing what they love fires her up like no other. Aside from being the co-founder of DiscoverHER Project, Jess is a meeting planner by day and a wedding planner by night. Jess is passionate about giving girls and women around the world the same tools she used to get to where she is today. She believes in wearing her heart on her sleeve, doing everything out of a place of love, and empowering people around her to do the same. When she isn’t working, she’s most often found with a good book in hand, brunching with friends (hello mimosas!), or off exploring the world.